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Good morning to today’s table and I’m glad to see you here.
Last week, I started sharing a story with you and I promised that I’d tell the full story this week so I here I am today to fulfil that promise.
If you missed last week’s post, you can kindly click here to keep up.
I really want us all to read this story carefully and be a part of it.
Once again, welcome to Table-for-Two’s Day!
So this guy starts to tell me the story of how he met his wife at the camp during his NYSC. They attended the same fellowship (I’ll leave the name under wraps, please) and their ‘friendship’ was cordial at best. After the one-year service, they all departed for their various homes and of course, he didn’t know where the lady lived or even got close enough to get her phone number. Such close liaision with someone of the opposite sex was strongly frowned upon by his church and as a ‘bro’ deeply entrenched in the tenets, he wasn’t breaking any rules.
So one day while he was seeking the face of God for his life partner (you have to seek before you find, right?) God showed him this same lady he met in camp was to be his wife. So he contacts his church leaders and told them. Since he knew the name of the lady, the leaders ran an extensive search on the church ‘networks’ and finally got to know the lady’s district and parish. They then connected with her pastor and told them that the young lady’s hand was being sought in marriage. IN ORDER WORD’S, YOU TOAST THE BABE BY HAVING YOUR PASTOR TOAST HER PASTOR!
Let me list out as briefly as I can the progression in order to save our time and energy.
– They told her and asked her to go pray.
– If she confirmed, they would arrange for them to meet.
– The brother was forbidden from getting in touch to communicate and state his intention.
– Babe says she’s confirmed and the church leaders arranged a meet.
– Day of the meeting, brother goes to fellowship in sister’s church. After service, they give both room to speak privately to each other. (On the altar of the church in full view of everyone and so no hanky-panky)
– When all was set, they asked both to go seek consent from their respective families. ( A male and female representative of the church would follow them on those trips to serve as eye-witness and give report back to the church on the outcome)
– All this while, the couple are not allowed to hang out together or even see each other where the church leaders or members are not present.
– When the family gives consent, the church now allocates a church family’s house where the couple are supposed to meet whenever it’s available to discuss their future plans. Of course the family had to be home.
– When all that was set, a date had to be fixed for the big day. But the guy’s house had to be inspected to be sure it’s good enough for a young couple to live in.
– For the wedding, need I say the wedding dress had to be inspected to be sure there are no ‘Revelations’ apart from the one in the bible? Or that the guy’s suit was to be inspected to ensure there was no pencil trousers or any funny ‘style’ but the conventional suit consisting a coat and matching trousers with maybe a baggy shirt. In fact, just get a space suit and dye it black and wear a tie.
– I didn’t need to ask if he kissed the bride on the wedding day. I am sure what the answer would be.
All-in-all, like I said last week, it took this guy two years from the day God showed him his wife to the day he married her. Personally, I wonder if I can wait that long.
Maybe I’m missing something here but does courtship have to be this strenuous or packed with all these protocol?
Do the couples really know each other before they get married? Is there a place for being romantic in a relationship?
Does this kind of ‘holy’ courtship automatically guarantee a happy home like the ‘bro’ preached to me and would have me believe?
For all of you married ones, would you have married the lady you married if you had to go through this protocol?
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